I often think what is it that has caused my boy to be upset? Is it something to do with his self-image, scolding from a teacher, a fight with a friend, bad day at school or some other unknown reason? I just take a deep breath and give him assurance and say “everything will just be OK” and also add “you are a good kid”!
I am sure every parent has encountered the heartbroken surreal moment, when your child comes from school and look upset. I can totally sense my son’s mood, when I pick him up from school. Its either all the little tooth out or a weird sweet blank face. His stressed inexpressive face breaks me inside out.
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We try too hard to be perfect parents and take up so much responsibility for the little soul, but the point is we as parent cannot be perfect in everything. our key strategy should be to cultivate healthy emotional and intellectual development, so that our children can lead balanced, meaningful, and connected lives. Throughout the day, they follow various set of rules in class & extracurricular activities but home is a comfortable space for our children. Home is the zone in which they feel relaxed and free and hence they feel the need to take there emotions out.
I just give my son some space and let him take his own time to open up with the emotional turmoil. over pressurizing make things worse. I provide a calm and peaceful environment, may be play some soft music and sit with him. When he is ready, he speaks about the bad day in class like “how his friend pushed him in running race and he fell down” OR “how he couldn’t answer in the class even after knowing the answer” etc. I just lend my ears and listen to the conversation, and just tell him that next time he will do much better and “tomorrow will be a great day”!
Most of the time, they feel better after the burden is out of the chest and they go by living normal lives. I know how hard it is to deal with tough professional challenges and also deal with a cranky child; but by spending valuable time with your child, listening to them and just being with them makes the bad day journey much easier.