With the awareness caused by media and other sources, we are aware that bullying is real, it’s brutal, and it’s here for our kids. Whether the kid is a genius or below average, bold or shy, athletic, or creative; they will get bullied in some way or the other rother. With the exposure of the internet, bullying isn’t limited to the school and playgrounds; it happens over the internet as well called “cyberbullying”.
Schools have adopted the zero-tolerance policy for bullying, the celebrities have raised their voice against it and there are even criminal penalties for the one who is caught bullying a student or friend. Yet, does it help every child? No. Parents themselves can train the children to respond to bullying.
Read on and you will know the different tactics you can teach your child so that he or she can deal with bullying in his or her way.
Strategies for children to respond to bullying:
Bullies always target their victims when they are alone or thought of as someone who no one will stand up for. Teach your child to have friends and to always stick together. This isn’t just a physical grouping, but if they witness a friend or classmate getting bullied then they should stand up for the victim. When the bully will sense togetherness, his victims will be scarce.
Sharing is smart-
When a child is getting bullied, he often hides it. Sometimes it’s because of fear of the judgment from his parents or they think that parents simply won’t register it as an issue and be able to help them. While you are educating your child about bullying, always teach them to share it with you. Sharing is smart and not cowardice should be fixed in the child’s head.
Redefinition of tattletale-
Young children often don’t understand the difference between complaining and being a tattletale. Explain this difference. If they are getting bullied and they share it with a teacher or parent, it’s simply complaining and standing up for oneself and it isn’t considered as a tattletale.
Many times, the bullying starts with simple name-calling. The child ignores it, ducks his head, and makes a run. Later, this bullying is morphed into punching and severe abuse. Teach your child to act instantly. The moment it happens, a step should be taken to further prevent it from happening and escalating.
Bullies relish in the passive response of the victim. The child should neither be passive nor aggressive. They need to be assertive. They should know when to put an end to things and how to say no. The art of when and how to say no is key in training your child for responding to bullying.
You will not always be present at the scene of bullying. Teach your child some basic responses that allow them to stand up for themselves and shutting the bullying before it progresses.